Why the Geek Girl?
So you realized
that you're never going to meet Kim Basinger. Moreover, the
pretty thing in your Sociology class or the leggy new secretary
in the office has given you the cold shoulder three weeks in a
row. You're feeling fairly dejected. You obviously haven't
considered dating a geek girl.
Unlike the cute
things you've been chasing, geek girls learned long ago that
physical attributes aren't as important as the person
underneath. On the Internet, they can participate in great,
anonymous cybercommunities, they can IRC, they can MUD, they can
email; they can interact with people intimately without ever
meeting them face to face. They are more attracted to
intelligence than testosterone; they don't need football players
- in fact, most of them find them to be a turnoff. Most
importantly, they like fellow geeks - prefer them, even. With a
geek girl, a geek guy has a decided advantage. They understand
them; they are understood by them. This could actually work.
Where to Find Geek Girls
Well, every geek
girl knows that the Internet is not just a tool. It's a
communications device. Most geek girls have a very active online
life; that may be the only part of their life that is active
right now. Look for them on the 'net, or even, if you're brave,
in the lab; but be careful. A geek girl might not be as
comfortable with you in person as she is online; sometimes it's
best to try the 'impersonal' route first.
the Geek Girl
Geek girls are
not attracted to neanderthals. In fact, surviving out there
amongst the net.tomcats, they have developed rather finely-honed
defenses. Therefore, an email saying, "Me Tarzan, you Jane,"
will most likely be met with a spout of flame the likes of which
you have probably never seen before, and if you can't get into
your asbestos suit fast enough, it's not our fault.
brash approach is not always the best tactic. Before flooding
the bandwidth with your testosterone, it is always good to
acquaint yourself with the geek girl in question and familiarize
yourself with her haunts. Read her favorite newsgroups for a
while; verse yourself in her interests. When you feel ready,
venture forth a post or two, but be careful; sound intelligent.
If it's been said before, don't repeat it. If it's off topic,
don't mention it. Most importantly, if it's flamebait, KEEP YOUR
MOUTH SHUT. One of the quickest ways to turn off a geek girl is
to show yourself unknowledgeable of net.etiquette. Twinks need
If she likes what
you said, the geek girl may write back to you in private email.
Private email conversations are a great way to get to know a
geek girl, but do not get ahead of yourself! Thanks to the joys
of email, the geek girl has had to fend off as many come-ons as
a blonde bombshell who frequents singles bars. Keep the
conversation neutral until she changes it.
the Geek Girl
There are many
topics of conversation the geek girl may be interested in
discussing. One of the most popular ones is Science Fiction;
geek girls are often avid SF fans, and many will gleefully
analyze the latest B5 episode for hours with you; however, there
are a few things to keep in mind where the geek girl take on
Science Fiction is concerned:
Ivanova is God.
Voyager got it
right: a woman's place IS in the Captain's chair. Or in
Engineering. Or anywhere else that requires her to use her brain
instead of just being a 'nurturing figure.'
Harry Kim is
DARNED CUTE. Corollary: Tom Paris is a PIG.
The 'spandex in
space' phenomenon is evil unless it's Picard in his riding
pants. Mulder in his Speedo, while not being a space phenomenon
so to speak, is still also quite acceptable.
Every geek girl
has had a crush on Han Solo or Luke Skywalker. Most of us, both.
Many of us still do, secretly.
explore a character's inner feelings are just as important, if
not more so, than ones where they go around shooting things.
Geek girls like
Spock better than Kirk. Don't ask, it just IS.
Geek girls stick
together, and look for themselves in their entertainment. They
will pick up on the brainy computer whiz kid actually being a
girl for a change. They will cheer when a woman becomes Chief of
Engineering. If you know what's good for you, you will cheer,
get this walking carpet out of my way??!"
So you finally
get to meet your geek girl in person. What does she look like?
Most geek girls have low-maintenance appearances. After all,
their online life is often more active than their RL existence,
so why bother? More important, however, is the comfort issue.
They want to be comfortable; and, in the end, someone who
prefers being comfortable to 'looking good' is probably someone
who's a lot more comfortable to be around.
Jeans are the
staple element of the geek girl wardrobe. Glasses, usually
strong, are also a familiar touch. The hair can be any length,
but in almost all cases, it is OUT OF THE WAY. They don't dress
for success. They dress for comfort, for long hours in the lab,
for convenience. This is not to say that geek girls aren't
capable of looking nice; they can be quite striking when the
mood suits them. Most of the time, however, they are under
fluorescent lighting and bent over the monitor, so makeup,
suits, and high heels are utterly pointless. Not that they
aren't anyway, of course.
the Geek Girl
Once you've got
her, the next step is keeping her. To do this, just remember
that your geek girl has a few special things about her that
distinguish her from other women. All women like gifts, but the
geek girl's tastes are different. The average woman likes
flowers, but the geek girl is not average, and would probably
rather not be bothered with something so transient. A Star Trek
mousepad would last much longer. Thinking of getting her a
necklace? Why not a new sound card instead? A makeup table would
not get much use, but a new computer desk would probably see her
more than you do. Use your brain when choosing the gifts; that's
what she likes you for, anyway.
remember that a geek girl is a rewarding choice for a happy
life. Unencumbered by many of the more ridiculous of society's
trappings, she is a comfortable person who uses her brain and
who wants to be with someone who does the same. If you qualify,
a geek girl may be for you!